A friend once said to me that if he had to choose between two candidates to be employed, he would choose the one who was married, because that person would be more responsible compared to the unmarried one. Furthermore, the married candidate has more responsibilities, i.e. wife and/or kids, which mean that he needs the means to support them.
This makes me wonder. What if the chosen candidate gets a divorce after being hired? Is he still responsible? Or is he less responsible? Will he remain employed?
I wonder even more. Get a job to be married? Be married to get a job? In respect to the latter, if my dream job requires me to be married, then I will, for the sake of getting the job.
There are married men and women who are uncommitted to their partners, and there are unmarried couples who are committed to their partners. What is my point?
My point is that marriage will not automatically turn you into a responsible, committed, loving, trustworthy, caring and loyal person. These qualities come from within. Do not wait for a high post to come your way before committing to your career. Do not wait for an accident to happen to be concerned about safety. Do not wait for a relationship to be loving to one another.
Therefore, decide for yourself the qualities that you want to embody and personify regardless of externalities. If you wait for circumstances to decide, they either may not come, or they may change.
How did Bruce Wayne become Batman? How did Peter Parker become Spiderman? How did Dr. Bruce Banner become the Incredible Hulk? And how did Steve Rogers become Captain America? These superheroes are the alter egos of their original personality.
Therefore, do you need to put on a costume to uphold the law? Do you need to be exposed to gamma radiation to be resilient in difficult times? Do you need to be bit by a spider to help those in trouble? And do you need to be administered an experimental serum to lead your team?
Instead, be like Superman. Why? Because Superman is the original personality whereas his alter ego is Clark Kent. You have phenomenal qualities the minute you were born. Allow yourself to be inspired by these words by Marianne Williamson – founder of The Peace Alliance:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we’re liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
Here are three questions to guide you in finding the qualities that you want to attain: 1. How would you want other people to treat you and your loved ones? 2. How would you carry out your duties if you were the Prime Minister? 3. What is the value of the price tag that you would place on these characteristics and qualities?
Awesome Tip: You have something that the world needs. Allow it to manifest itself.